I am a very optomistic person. I'm sure I've mentioned before that I believe the old saying...."You can either laugh or you can cry." I personally prefer to laugh as much as possible. Years ago at my job, one of the many bosses in the office stopped me one day in the hall and said "Kathy, you are always smiling, everytime I see you, you are smiling. Why is that?" I laughed and told him I was just lazy. "Lazy? What do you mean?" he asked. "Well," I said, "it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, so I smile all the time because I'm lazy!"
I have not had the easiest life. I didn't get a fairy tale. I had a good childhood, we moved several times, but I got to see the world. I got married when I was 21 and by the ripe old age of 23, I was a widow, with a special needs child and a 6 month old baby. I struggled to support us and sometimes worked two jobs. I made several bad choices over the years, a few with men and I got knocked around because of those bad choices. (Maybe I'll tell you more about that sometime.) But throughout it all, I tried to remain upbeat, my kids never saw me cry except at a couple of sappy movies and we came out on the other side with a new marriage, a new Dad, and 5 more siblings.
My husband is not an optomist. If you listen to him, we will be bankrupt at any moment, the kids are bleeding us dry and we will all probably have to live in the Suburban, if we can afford to keep the payments up on that. Maybe we will live in the F250 instead, it's already paid for.... My personal opinion is it will all work out, we will make it, just like we always have, and I will not give myself ulcers worrying about stuff that hasn't happend yet. You know what I mean, my husband sits around thinking...well IF this and this happen, then THIS could happen and we could all go to "hell in a handbasket." We are no where near bankruptcy, our life is good, he just likes to worry!
If I have to go back to work...fine....I'm not stupid, I can get another job and I can help out. Do I know how tough things are out there right now, and people my age are not getting jobs....sure, but I also know ME and if I need to go back to work, I WILL find a job.
I guess I just don't understand people who are pessimistic, like my husand. I want to be happy and feel good...how can you do that if you are always trying to find the bad side of everything? Sure there are things in life that are ugly and difficult. There have been several events during the past year or so in the media that have been horrible....but I can't live in fear and lock myself and my family up in our house with the windows and doors barred against the ugliness in the world. The Mr. Roger's quote, "Always look for the helpers," is the way I look at these events.
If you are a pessimist please try and look at the bright side of the world. Enjoy a beautiful sunrise or sunset, laugh with your kids or grandkids or friends. There is ALWAYS a bright side to EVERY situation. And remember..."God never gives you more than you can handle and when He closes a door, He opens a window." Sometimes the weight on your shoulders can be very heavy and those windows can be really hard to find.....but you CAN DO IT!
Have a Great Day! (AND BE LAZY.....SMILE!)
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