Last night I started two different posts...one is something I want to tell you about myself and the other is an opinion. I started writing my opinion first, but then knew I had to go back and explain some things first. I couldn't get through it, and it may take two, three or four times to finish that particular blog....it is VERY painful for me and brings up memories I don't like....but it was an important time in my life and I want to share it with all of you. In the meantime....here is something I thought about today.
As I was making my potato, ham, cheese soup for supper tonight something started rolling around in my brain that I needed to get out....I will probably do a part two to this post and more...and I would LOVE to have some comments that add to the list. I hope the Moms out there can relate and laugh....
Being a Mom, Step Mom, Grandmother, etc. is not always easy.....yes, I can see many of you out there shaking your heads yes....but one of my favorite sayings in life is..."If I didn't laugh, I would cry...and I don't want to cry!" So here a just a few things I thought of today, and yes, most of them have happened right here in my house....here we go:
1. If you've ever served pancakes for supper amid shouts of "Yay, horray, and this is AWESOME."...You might be a Mom!
2. If you've ever yelled at a kid.."Stop biting the DOG!"... You might be a Mom!
3. If you've ever woken up in your kids' top bunk, or even a toddler bed because there were too many bodies in YOUR bed....You might be a Mom!
4. If you've ever chased a naked child around the front yard in your nightgown...You might be a Mom!
5. If you've ever woken up at 2:30 in the morning to every light in the house on and found your three year old sitting on the kitchen counter covered in Chocolate Frosting......You might be a Mom!
And finally......
6. If you've ever sat down on the couch, after everyone else is in bed, with a bottle of wine, pulled the cork and drank straight from the bottle because there are no clean glasses and you just don't give a SHIT....YOU MIGHT BE A MOM!
As I said above, I hope to add to this list and I would love to hear from other Mom's in the comment section.....some of my posts will be serious, some I hope will be funny....help me out ladies....tell me what it's like to be a MOM!
Have a great day!
Sunday, March 24, 2013
Friday, March 22, 2013
Step Parents....The Step Kids Will Appreciate You in the End
My husband and I are both step parents. It's not an easy job, there are a lot of arguments, name calling, and all out fights....and that's just my husband and I....
I KNOW being a step parent isn't easy. In fact my husband and I are BOTH step parents to the same child. Our oldest son. My husband met Shane's mother when Shane was six months old. He and Shane's mother had a 9 year live in relationship and my husband was the only Dad Shane ever knew.
When Shane's Mom decided she wanted to end the relationship, she moved out, my husband just came home from work and a whole lot of stuff was gone...but Shane was still there. She left Shane there for several months and had no contact with him. Shane's mother tried to get my husband to adopt Shane, only because she wanted him to pay child support. My husband paid many of Shane's bills over the years, school clothes, braces, doctor bills that were not paid by insurance. Shane spent weekends and summers with my husband and everything was fine, my husband was his Dad and Shane was his son.
In fact, the first time I met my husband, he introduced me to his son, Shane. I actually had no idea he was his stepdad for a long time. Shane was 13 when I met his Dad and I had 2 other children. I can honestly say that 13 is not the best age to meet your future step child....13 is not a good time with your biological children!
Then Shane's mom started throwing up roadblocks and trying to cause problems. Once she knew I was in the picture and would probably stay, she tried to get Shane away from his Dad. I saw what she was doing and countered many of her objections. Then, having met Shane's mother I came home from work one day and sat down to talk to him. I told him that his mother was going to tell him that his Dad and my children and I were a family now, and we didn't want or need him anymore. I told him nothing could be further from the truth, that we were his family and we wanted him to stay as a part of our family. I gave him several examples of things his Dad and I had done to counter his mother's objections. A few minutes later, his mother pulled up in the driveway and honked for him. His mother sat in MY driveway and said the very words I had told him were coming that very same day.....he was livid!
Shane's relationship with his mom was often strained over the years. I won't say she was crazy, but she was crazy! But please don't think that MY relationship with Shane was all sunshine and roses. Since his Mom was crazy, my husband had overindulged him and looked the other way over many issues, (little did I know that this is actually my husband's parenting style, and I would pay for it all over again with our 4 children!)
When I came into the picture, I had rules....lots of them. I didn't expect anything more of Shane than I did my own children, and he knew that. My husband made many excuses for him that I ignored and Shane and I went backwards/forwards/sideways/and upside down on many occassions. There were times when I thought this young man was going to hate me forever!
Then, one day, when Shane was living in another state, he called me to wish me a Happy Mother's Day. I was amazed and thanked him, then I hung up the phone and burst into tears! I actually called Shane back and told him how much it meant to me that he had called ME to say Happy Mother's Day.
Through the years Shane has lived in three states and he has kept in contact with my husband and I through phone conversations and pictures, cards and letters. Shane got married and has a daughter, our oldest granchild. And then Shane wanted to come home, with his wife and our granddaughter. So he settled in a small town just a few miles from our farm and we see him and his family on a regular basis. We celebrate holidays, birthdays, and sometimes just regular days together.
Shane does not speak to his mother anymore, although I have encouraged him to answer her calls or call her on more than one occassion. I ask about her every once in a while...he doesn't know how she is, she lives in Alaska now.
The point here is this....if you are a good parent, no matter the battles you have with your step kids, at some point they all grow up and realize who was there for them when they stumbled, who picked them up when they fell, who backed them up and forced them to do things they didn't want to do, but were in their best interests in the long run. They remember and someday they will surprise you with a phone call for Mother's Day or Father's Day or your birthday and you will know it was all worth it in the end!
I KNOW being a step parent isn't easy. In fact my husband and I are BOTH step parents to the same child. Our oldest son. My husband met Shane's mother when Shane was six months old. He and Shane's mother had a 9 year live in relationship and my husband was the only Dad Shane ever knew.
When Shane's Mom decided she wanted to end the relationship, she moved out, my husband just came home from work and a whole lot of stuff was gone...but Shane was still there. She left Shane there for several months and had no contact with him. Shane's mother tried to get my husband to adopt Shane, only because she wanted him to pay child support. My husband paid many of Shane's bills over the years, school clothes, braces, doctor bills that were not paid by insurance. Shane spent weekends and summers with my husband and everything was fine, my husband was his Dad and Shane was his son.
In fact, the first time I met my husband, he introduced me to his son, Shane. I actually had no idea he was his stepdad for a long time. Shane was 13 when I met his Dad and I had 2 other children. I can honestly say that 13 is not the best age to meet your future step child....13 is not a good time with your biological children!
Then Shane's mom started throwing up roadblocks and trying to cause problems. Once she knew I was in the picture and would probably stay, she tried to get Shane away from his Dad. I saw what she was doing and countered many of her objections. Then, having met Shane's mother I came home from work one day and sat down to talk to him. I told him that his mother was going to tell him that his Dad and my children and I were a family now, and we didn't want or need him anymore. I told him nothing could be further from the truth, that we were his family and we wanted him to stay as a part of our family. I gave him several examples of things his Dad and I had done to counter his mother's objections. A few minutes later, his mother pulled up in the driveway and honked for him. His mother sat in MY driveway and said the very words I had told him were coming that very same day.....he was livid!
Shane's relationship with his mom was often strained over the years. I won't say she was crazy, but she was crazy! But please don't think that MY relationship with Shane was all sunshine and roses. Since his Mom was crazy, my husband had overindulged him and looked the other way over many issues, (little did I know that this is actually my husband's parenting style, and I would pay for it all over again with our 4 children!)
When I came into the picture, I had rules....lots of them. I didn't expect anything more of Shane than I did my own children, and he knew that. My husband made many excuses for him that I ignored and Shane and I went backwards/forwards/sideways/and upside down on many occassions. There were times when I thought this young man was going to hate me forever!
Then, one day, when Shane was living in another state, he called me to wish me a Happy Mother's Day. I was amazed and thanked him, then I hung up the phone and burst into tears! I actually called Shane back and told him how much it meant to me that he had called ME to say Happy Mother's Day.
Through the years Shane has lived in three states and he has kept in contact with my husband and I through phone conversations and pictures, cards and letters. Shane got married and has a daughter, our oldest granchild. And then Shane wanted to come home, with his wife and our granddaughter. So he settled in a small town just a few miles from our farm and we see him and his family on a regular basis. We celebrate holidays, birthdays, and sometimes just regular days together.
Shane does not speak to his mother anymore, although I have encouraged him to answer her calls or call her on more than one occassion. I ask about her every once in a while...he doesn't know how she is, she lives in Alaska now.
The point here is this....if you are a good parent, no matter the battles you have with your step kids, at some point they all grow up and realize who was there for them when they stumbled, who picked them up when they fell, who backed them up and forced them to do things they didn't want to do, but were in their best interests in the long run. They remember and someday they will surprise you with a phone call for Mother's Day or Father's Day or your birthday and you will know it was all worth it in the end!
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
I am a BITCH....Don't Piss Me Off
I am angry tonight...very, very, very angry! And that makes me ANGRY! Because now I have no patience with my kids, my animals or anyone else and they are not the ones who made me angry!
If you know me, you know I am a person who wants to "save the world" (I've mentioned this before.) I will save animals, and people. I will give you anything I can, a roof over your head, the shirt off my back, I will feed you, I will give you the presents under my tree......I am not a millionaire so I can't give you money, but I will do what I can to help you, if you have a specific need, I will try to fill it. My family lives in perpetual fear that they will come home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, or just dinner one night and the table will be full of homeless people....and they will smile, make coversation and serve and do everything I have taught them to do to make everyone happy because that's just the way it is!
I am a sucker....I will listen to your hard luck story....and I will try to help. I don't understand how the people I help can take advantage of others....it hurts me more than I can say! The world should not be like this....I don't want to be disappointed...when I see a guy holding a sign that says "will work for food," if I don't have work, then I will give him my last $5 because I do have food. Are some of these people taking advantage of me? Well yes they are, but I will take that chance.
Is it so much to hope that the people you help will Pay It Forward? I do stupid stuff, like pay for the meal of the next car behind me in the drive-thru, or drop a $100 bill on the counter for someone I see paying for their groceries with food stamps, so maybe they will have an extra $100 worth of food this month. And I know that many of you are thinking I'm an idiot because some of those people will take that extra $100 and sell it off for something else...but I live in a small town in Kansas, not a big city, so I hope they will just be happy for that extra $100.
When you live in a small town you know alot of people....maybe KNOW is not the right word but I am involved in the PTA, I am in the school several times a week, my children participate in local sports...even if you don't know me...good or bad you've probably heard of me. I would hope that if some stranger walked into town today and asked people about me they would hear mostly good things...sure there will be bad stuff too, but I hope I am well thought of in our small town.
Please don't think, reading that last paragraph, that I am someone who craves acceptance or atta' girls, I'm not. I speak my mind, good or bad, I say stuff I shouldn't, I yell at my kids at their games, I do alot of things that can allienate people. I do things behind the scenes in many cases, and I don't care if anyone ever knows about it.
So, reading back, it looks like I have just given you all the reasons you should like me...but today, that UGLY BITCH reared her head. Today, I found out that someone I've helped for months on end took advantage of someone else.....someone like me, someone trusting, naive and innocent....(ok we all know I am not niave and innocent but she was.) This is what made me ANGRY and this is what this post is all about.
I know there are people in this world who are users...but I don't want those people in MY world. And when you use someone that I know, through association, you have used ME....and when it becomes connected to MY name, you have used ME again. And at some point I WILL MAKE YOU VERY SORRY! You have used people in this town for years...I hope I will be the last....don't use my name as a reference, it won't be good. You have a family and children, you grew up here, and you have burned your last bridge! I will make sure that no one EVER does anything for you in this town again...I feel sorry for your kids, but YOU set the example for them...and YOU will pay the consequences.
I will not get into the detail here, I just needed to rant....but please if you are like me, a "save the world" person, don't let a few people get you down...I am feeling better already because I just put my rant down in words...I will STILL try to save the world...I just need to check a few references first!
Have a great day!
If you know me, you know I am a person who wants to "save the world" (I've mentioned this before.) I will save animals, and people. I will give you anything I can, a roof over your head, the shirt off my back, I will feed you, I will give you the presents under my tree......I am not a millionaire so I can't give you money, but I will do what I can to help you, if you have a specific need, I will try to fill it. My family lives in perpetual fear that they will come home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, or just dinner one night and the table will be full of homeless people....and they will smile, make coversation and serve and do everything I have taught them to do to make everyone happy because that's just the way it is!
I am a sucker....I will listen to your hard luck story....and I will try to help. I don't understand how the people I help can take advantage of others....it hurts me more than I can say! The world should not be like this....I don't want to be disappointed...when I see a guy holding a sign that says "will work for food," if I don't have work, then I will give him my last $5 because I do have food. Are some of these people taking advantage of me? Well yes they are, but I will take that chance.
Is it so much to hope that the people you help will Pay It Forward? I do stupid stuff, like pay for the meal of the next car behind me in the drive-thru, or drop a $100 bill on the counter for someone I see paying for their groceries with food stamps, so maybe they will have an extra $100 worth of food this month. And I know that many of you are thinking I'm an idiot because some of those people will take that extra $100 and sell it off for something else...but I live in a small town in Kansas, not a big city, so I hope they will just be happy for that extra $100.
When you live in a small town you know alot of people....maybe KNOW is not the right word but I am involved in the PTA, I am in the school several times a week, my children participate in local sports...even if you don't know me...good or bad you've probably heard of me. I would hope that if some stranger walked into town today and asked people about me they would hear mostly good things...sure there will be bad stuff too, but I hope I am well thought of in our small town.
Please don't think, reading that last paragraph, that I am someone who craves acceptance or atta' girls, I'm not. I speak my mind, good or bad, I say stuff I shouldn't, I yell at my kids at their games, I do alot of things that can allienate people. I do things behind the scenes in many cases, and I don't care if anyone ever knows about it.
So, reading back, it looks like I have just given you all the reasons you should like me...but today, that UGLY BITCH reared her head. Today, I found out that someone I've helped for months on end took advantage of someone else.....someone like me, someone trusting, naive and innocent....(ok we all know I am not niave and innocent but she was.) This is what made me ANGRY and this is what this post is all about.
I know there are people in this world who are users...but I don't want those people in MY world. And when you use someone that I know, through association, you have used ME....and when it becomes connected to MY name, you have used ME again. And at some point I WILL MAKE YOU VERY SORRY! You have used people in this town for years...I hope I will be the last....don't use my name as a reference, it won't be good. You have a family and children, you grew up here, and you have burned your last bridge! I will make sure that no one EVER does anything for you in this town again...I feel sorry for your kids, but YOU set the example for them...and YOU will pay the consequences.
I will not get into the detail here, I just needed to rant....but please if you are like me, a "save the world" person, don't let a few people get you down...I am feeling better already because I just put my rant down in words...I will STILL try to save the world...I just need to check a few references first!
Have a great day!
Saturday, March 16, 2013
Another World.....
I don't know about all of you, but sometimes, I just need to get away! I mean come on, the house is wreck, there are between 5 and 7 children/grandchildren here most of the time, there are dogs, cats, horses and a goat, and I just need to escape! There are many forms of escape. Some people go on vacations, a cruise, a date night....others choose chemical escapes (I don't approve of those)....there are many ways to escape the hustle and bustle of life. For me, my escape is in books!
I love to read. I read Regency Romance novels frequently. The hero or heroine, ok mostly the heroine, starts out in trouble, because of money or low birth, or rumors Most of the plots are pretty simple....they don't like each other and are thrown together due to undesirable circumstances....eventually they fall in love....(ok sometimes there is some intimate stuff involved here) then through misunderstandings or unforeseen circumstances they don't like each other again...and then in the end all is right with their world, they are pregnant or have a kid and you know they will all live happily ever after in their wonderful mansion or castle or whatever. Is it real...NO, and if I could conjure up spirits from the Regency period I doubt they would tell me their lives were so wonderful...but in MY fantasy world, where I go to escape, that's how it is!
I don't just read romances though. There have been Wizards and Witches and Vampires, Lords, Ladies, Knights, Kings, Queens, and Dukes, Gods and Goddesses and their children in my other world. Sometimes the world as we know it is gone, and people are trying to survive.....sometimes there are animals who help people. I have to say some of my favorite characters in this other world are animals or children of various shapes and sizes.
I read many books, some of them are childrens' books I read to my kids at night, Some of the books I read. are happy and some are heart wrentching and make me cry, sometimes they are from a completely different time and place, from the future or the past. But the most important thing is they take me with them.....
Many of the books I have read been made into movies or television shows that do the same thing...take us to places we never thought we would be, see things we never thought we would , the ghosts, the witches, the costumes, flying cars, whatever, it's another world. It's not my living room filled with toys and laundry and it's not my messy kitchen!
I have to say that I prefer the pictures in my head. Because you see, when a book is well written, I go there in my mind....I am a bystander at the ball, seeing the elaborate dresses and costumes, I am in the stands during a game, I am on the battlefield...I can see it all in my mind, I am there....and Ladies and Gentlemen that is exactly where you should be too! A well written book takes you to places you have never been, days gone by, imaginary places, places that don't even exist yet or maybe never will....but you can see them....you can be a part of that time and place in your imagination. When you see a movie, you see what the Director and Producer want you to see....it's may or may not be what you have seen in your mind...and there is NEVER enough time in a movie to tell the story the way it was told in the book. There are too many details in a well written book that can not be brought out on screen.
So do yourself a favor, if you need to de-stress, go somewhere else, get away from it all....read a book....and see where it takes you! And someday, I hope I will be able to take you there too...I have always wanted to write books, I'm starting with a blog....lets see where it take me!
I love to read. I read Regency Romance novels frequently. The hero or heroine, ok mostly the heroine, starts out in trouble, because of money or low birth, or rumors Most of the plots are pretty simple....they don't like each other and are thrown together due to undesirable circumstances....eventually they fall in love....(ok sometimes there is some intimate stuff involved here) then through misunderstandings or unforeseen circumstances they don't like each other again...and then in the end all is right with their world, they are pregnant or have a kid and you know they will all live happily ever after in their wonderful mansion or castle or whatever. Is it real...NO, and if I could conjure up spirits from the Regency period I doubt they would tell me their lives were so wonderful...but in MY fantasy world, where I go to escape, that's how it is!
I don't just read romances though. There have been Wizards and Witches and Vampires, Lords, Ladies, Knights, Kings, Queens, and Dukes, Gods and Goddesses and their children in my other world. Sometimes the world as we know it is gone, and people are trying to survive.....sometimes there are animals who help people. I have to say some of my favorite characters in this other world are animals or children of various shapes and sizes.
I read many books, some of them are childrens' books I read to my kids at night, Some of the books I read. are happy and some are heart wrentching and make me cry, sometimes they are from a completely different time and place, from the future or the past. But the most important thing is they take me with them.....
Many of the books I have read been made into movies or television shows that do the same thing...take us to places we never thought we would be, see things we never thought we would , the ghosts, the witches, the costumes, flying cars, whatever, it's another world. It's not my living room filled with toys and laundry and it's not my messy kitchen!
I have to say that I prefer the pictures in my head. Because you see, when a book is well written, I go there in my mind....I am a bystander at the ball, seeing the elaborate dresses and costumes, I am in the stands during a game, I am on the battlefield...I can see it all in my mind, I am there....and Ladies and Gentlemen that is exactly where you should be too! A well written book takes you to places you have never been, days gone by, imaginary places, places that don't even exist yet or maybe never will....but you can see them....you can be a part of that time and place in your imagination. When you see a movie, you see what the Director and Producer want you to see....it's may or may not be what you have seen in your mind...and there is NEVER enough time in a movie to tell the story the way it was told in the book. There are too many details in a well written book that can not be brought out on screen.
So do yourself a favor, if you need to de-stress, go somewhere else, get away from it all....read a book....and see where it takes you! And someday, I hope I will be able to take you there too...I have always wanted to write books, I'm starting with a blog....lets see where it take me!
Friday, March 15, 2013
I Have a Confession to Make
Ok everyone, I have a confession to make.....I've become a neglectful, some might say abusive, pet owner....the dogs, the cats, the horses, and the goat are all fine. But the poor Beta Fish is just not getting enough of my attention. Not that the fish is mine, mind you, but as with all animals in my house, you know who is taking care of them....ME.
So here is how it all started. You all know that I am one of those people who is going to "save the world" as often as possible. My daughter in law has also begun to pick up on some of this, (my son is not happy with me for this) and she goes off on causes every once in a while. Some of her causes are a little strange...this is one of them. Her latest cause is to save as many Walmart Beta fish as possible. She believes they are being improperly cared for and abused by Walmart and some of their customers (probably smart ass kids.) She has found several of them dumped together in the same bowl....for those of you that don't know Betas are fighting fish...so when you put two or more of them together in the same bowl they fight and tear each other up. In order to prevent this abuse, my daughter in law has been trying to purchase as many Beta as she can. I have not been to her house lately, but I'm sure there are fish bowls covering many surfaces....
Unfortunately for me, two of my children celebrated their birthdays a couple of months ago. Guess what she gave them for their birthday presents....that's right, Betas, with their own bowls and everything. The children were thrilled, they have always wanted fish. I, on the other hand, was not thrilled. First of all, Betas basically do nothing but hang there in the bowl, I mean goldfish at least swim around and are active and can be slightly amusing. The only difference I can see between a dead Beta and a live one is the live one is upright and the dead one is upside down!
My youngest named his fish Spiderman, as it was red and blue. I do not remember what my daughter named her fish, but I'm sure it has a name. I have named it Lucky because it has managed to live so far!
Spiderman was murdered within about a week of arriving. I had worried about my cats because the bowls are small and the cats can reach in and get the fish. I will say at least, that the fish DO move when a cat paw is reaching into the bowl, rather than just hang there, unfortunately this tends to excite the cat more.....but Spiderman was not killed by a cat, he was killed by his 6 year old owner who was squishing him with the little fish net. My daughter in law was heartbroken, as Spiderman was the first fish she saved and special to her. I on the other hand was amazed that he lived that long.
But back to the abuse and neglect of Lucky. I will say that maintenance of a Beta is fairly easy, I am supposed to just put him in a cup of distilled water, rinse out his little bowl and fill it with distilled water and put him back in. I am also supposed to feed him 3 tiny little balls a day. Unfortunately Lucky sits on an end table at the opposite of the end of the couch where I usually sit, so I forget he is there, alot. I notice him when I have to yell at the cats to stop drinking his water. I believe the cats' plan is to drink all the water and then they can grab the fish without getting wet. Cats are so diabolical! Sometimes when I notice a cat drinking his water he has only an inch or so left. I have not been cleaning his little bowl once a week, and if you saw more poor skeletal little blue fish you would know I have not been feeding him regularly....I feel terrible, I have never been a neglectful or abusive to animals before. I have even tried leaving the fish food and distilled water behind the lamp on the table to help me remember and have it easily accessible. This plan failed when I found that the distilled water and fish food were also easily accessible to my 6 year old and my 4 year old grandson....thankfully I noticed the half a can of fish food in Lucky's water right away, I just had to run to Walmart to buy more distilled water since it was all over the living room carpet.
So I'm asking all of you to say a little prayer for Lucky. I'm also asking for a prayer for myself as I am sure I will be punished by God for this neglectful and abusive behavior. I am going to try and do better. I have already cleaned Lucky's bowl and fed him today. Now I just have to remember he is there tomorrow.....
Have a Great Day!
So here is how it all started. You all know that I am one of those people who is going to "save the world" as often as possible. My daughter in law has also begun to pick up on some of this, (my son is not happy with me for this) and she goes off on causes every once in a while. Some of her causes are a little strange...this is one of them. Her latest cause is to save as many Walmart Beta fish as possible. She believes they are being improperly cared for and abused by Walmart and some of their customers (probably smart ass kids.) She has found several of them dumped together in the same bowl....for those of you that don't know Betas are fighting fish...so when you put two or more of them together in the same bowl they fight and tear each other up. In order to prevent this abuse, my daughter in law has been trying to purchase as many Beta as she can. I have not been to her house lately, but I'm sure there are fish bowls covering many surfaces....
Unfortunately for me, two of my children celebrated their birthdays a couple of months ago. Guess what she gave them for their birthday presents....that's right, Betas, with their own bowls and everything. The children were thrilled, they have always wanted fish. I, on the other hand, was not thrilled. First of all, Betas basically do nothing but hang there in the bowl, I mean goldfish at least swim around and are active and can be slightly amusing. The only difference I can see between a dead Beta and a live one is the live one is upright and the dead one is upside down!
My youngest named his fish Spiderman, as it was red and blue. I do not remember what my daughter named her fish, but I'm sure it has a name. I have named it Lucky because it has managed to live so far!
Spiderman was murdered within about a week of arriving. I had worried about my cats because the bowls are small and the cats can reach in and get the fish. I will say at least, that the fish DO move when a cat paw is reaching into the bowl, rather than just hang there, unfortunately this tends to excite the cat more.....but Spiderman was not killed by a cat, he was killed by his 6 year old owner who was squishing him with the little fish net. My daughter in law was heartbroken, as Spiderman was the first fish she saved and special to her. I on the other hand was amazed that he lived that long.
But back to the abuse and neglect of Lucky. I will say that maintenance of a Beta is fairly easy, I am supposed to just put him in a cup of distilled water, rinse out his little bowl and fill it with distilled water and put him back in. I am also supposed to feed him 3 tiny little balls a day. Unfortunately Lucky sits on an end table at the opposite of the end of the couch where I usually sit, so I forget he is there, alot. I notice him when I have to yell at the cats to stop drinking his water. I believe the cats' plan is to drink all the water and then they can grab the fish without getting wet. Cats are so diabolical! Sometimes when I notice a cat drinking his water he has only an inch or so left. I have not been cleaning his little bowl once a week, and if you saw more poor skeletal little blue fish you would know I have not been feeding him regularly....I feel terrible, I have never been a neglectful or abusive to animals before. I have even tried leaving the fish food and distilled water behind the lamp on the table to help me remember and have it easily accessible. This plan failed when I found that the distilled water and fish food were also easily accessible to my 6 year old and my 4 year old grandson....thankfully I noticed the half a can of fish food in Lucky's water right away, I just had to run to Walmart to buy more distilled water since it was all over the living room carpet.
So I'm asking all of you to say a little prayer for Lucky. I'm also asking for a prayer for myself as I am sure I will be punished by God for this neglectful and abusive behavior. I am going to try and do better. I have already cleaned Lucky's bowl and fed him today. Now I just have to remember he is there tomorrow.....
Have a Great Day!
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